The Road Not Taken

I had a really nice breakfast with a friend yesterday that lasted over 2 and a half hours! Vivi was with me the whole time and what an angel she was. My friend and her husband are hoping to receive their first foster baby in the next month and we got to talking about adoption and infertility. She said that people ask if they are still "trying". What they mean is are they still wanting to have a child of their "own". And she said they are surprised when she says that they do not desire a pregnancy anymore, but desire to build their family through adoption and are very excited about meeting their child and dream about what they will look like, how old they will be, what gender. This is so true of Billy and I too. A pregnancy now would mean one less adoption we don't get to experience. And although all children would be a blessing to our family, it would also be sad to miss out on raising another dark skinned, dark haired child of our very own. I was reminded of the poem by Robert Frost of The Road Not Taken. I thought I would post it today.

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference

I love this. I love that the poet states that he kept the first for another day, but knowing how life goes forward doubted if he would ever be back. How true this is about adoption. Many couples go forward with adoption knowing that they could always come back another day and try infertility treatments again...but as way leads on to way and you welcome your first and second and third child home, you realize your life is full, better then you could have planned it to be, for you took the road less traveled by...and that has made all the difference.